• Categories

  • Top Posts

  • © Holly Craw and Home-School-Community, 2009. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Holly Craw and Home-School-Community with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Homeschooling socialization myth #2: Kids won’t have friends

In previous articles [1] [2], I have begun taking apart some of the beneath-the-surface ideas that are the heart of the question:

“If you homeschool, how will your children become socialized?”In this scenario, the fear is that the students won’t have any friends nor know how to make friends.


The foundations for knowing how to be a friend come from the home environment.  If the family setting is safe and caring and concerned for each other, generally children will feel loved enough that they are able to love other people well.  Students will understand what it means to share out of a sense of graciousness and delight if they experience an attitude of joy and abundance from the parents.  They will know how to discern another’s feelings if they have felt understood and valued.  Youngsters are willing to seek others out to include them when they know how it feels to be prized and accepted.

Many of these social structures will be formed in a child’s heart long before school age, based largely on the way people treat each other in the home.  While there is a need to continue training children in healthy relationships over the years, that training will best happen in relationship with a caring parent.  Certainly homeschool parents will need to set the stage for great friendship opportunities, and this can be done by inviting families over for a meal or activity, or getting involved with group sports.  The typical homeschool student is involved in 5-6 outside activities such as homeshool support groups, sports, music, church, scouts, hobbies, etc, in which they are around other people and have opportunity for making friends.  Most public school kids average 1-2 outside activities.

Does “having friends” mean that a student must have a large number of people around all the time?  The extroverts of the world would love that, but the introverted ones will feel uncomfortable if that is the expected norm.

Read more.

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: